Homily for Friday Nineteenth Week in Ordinary Time Year C, 12th August, 2022.

   Readings: Ezekiel 16:1-15.60-63, Is. 12:2-6, Matt. 19:3-12

Rev. Fr. Emmanuel Emenike Onyia.

DEALING WITH THE CONTROVERSIES OF DIVORCE IN MARRIAGE AND FAMILY LIFE

The idea of secularism and individualism in our society today has placed in the minds of the youths a distorted image of what marriage and family life entails and truly represents in the society. This is because many young people today find themselves in a condition of radical instability and look for people to help them answer the fundamental questions of life. Today there are different notion and understanding of marriage especially among the youths. Marriage is seen as a business which anybody can engage or disengage at anytime. 

Marriage among the youths of today is a thing of choice and contract which is suitable only when it serves their personal interest. Commitment, sacrifice and partnerships of a whole life are far from their understanding of what marriage truly represent. The fact remains that Marriage is the basis of every human family and indeed the basic cell of every community.

Little wonder in our Gospel passage today when the Pharisees engaged Jesus on the notion of divorce in marriage and it’s controversy. Jesus refer them to the fundamental principle of marriage when he said, Have you not read that the creator from the beginning made them male and female and that he said: This is why a man must leave father and mother, and cling to his wife, and the two become one body? They are no longer two, therefore, but one body. So then, what God has united, man must not divide.’ 

Addressing the issue of divorce, Jesus said ‘It was because you were so unteachable that’s why Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but it was not like this from the beginning. Now I say this to you: the man who divorces his wife, except for unchastity, marries another, is guilty of adultery. And he who marries a divorced wife commits adultery.  

 Here Jesus emphasized on the real intention of God about marriage and celibacy, that they are two forms of life that help us to value human sexuality as gift from God. He ruled out divorce by placing men and women on the same level; no longer could a man opt to divorce his wife, except for extreme unchastity. Today there are lots of problems in family due to lack of understanding of what marriage truly means. 

It is quite interesting to realize that social, economic and political factors were major determinants that shapes the youth’s present understand of marriage, as we see the youths giving importance to changing trends in marriage such as: single parent, inter-caste marriage, living in relationship or cohabitation, lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender marriages, etc. Hence, marriage for them is more of a social phenomenon than spiritual union and physical companionship.

Meanwhile, today prophet Ezekiel in our first reading reminds us that right from conception God gave us life, at birth he protected us, then we were stark naked, he spread the corner of his cloak over us to cover our nakedness. Now we are old enough for love, he showed us love and adorned us with beauty, ornaments, silver and gold and than he made a covenant with us to be our Groom and we, his lovely bride. 

But we abandoned and divorced him, by trusting on our own beauty and gifts which he has given us and using them to play harlot and lavished our harlotries on things of this passing world that take us away from God’s purpose of us. Yet God still remembers the covenant he made with us, he is not ashamed to forgive us. All he wants is for us to come back to him now that we are still alive for he is a merciful and faithful husband who loves us his bride. 

Dear friends, today we are called to embrace the will of God and his teaching concerning family life and the issue of divorce. We should not let the trending ideas of disordered personalities in our world mislead us. Rather, we should value and respect the sanctity of marriage. We should hold on to the true meaning of marriage which have to do with love, commitment, trust, sacrifice and partnership of a whole life time. 

Little wonder marriage  according to canon 1055 is defined as the "covenant by which a man and woman establish between themselves a partnership of the whole of life and which is ordered by its nature to the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring", and which "has been raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity of a sacrament between the baptized. 

LET US PRAY: Lord God, we have always failed to listen and follow you teaching, as a result, there are lots of problems in  our families due to lack of understanding of what marriage truly means. As we listen to your teaching today, help us to value our vocation whether marriage or celibate life and to constantly struggle to fix the problems in our families, we ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen. God bless you.