Homily for Twenty-Seventh Sunday in Ordinary Time Year B, 3rd October, 2021.

 Homily for Twenty-Seventh Sunday in Ordinary Time Year B, 3rd October, 2021.

Readings:  Gen. 2:18-24;  Ps. 128; Heb. 2:9-11; Matt. 10:2-16

Rev. Fr. Emmanuel Emenike Onyia.

ADDRESSING THE ISSUES CONCERNING MARRIAGE AND DIVORCE IN FAMILY LIFE

The fragile nature of our society today has placed in the minds of the youths a distorted image of what marriage and family life entails and truly represent in the society. This is because many young people today find themselves in a condition of radical instability and look for people to help them answer the fundamental questions of life. Today there are different notion and understanding of marriage especially among the youths. Marriage is seen as a business which anybody can engage or disengage at anytime. 

Marriage among the youths of today is a thing of choice and contract which is suitable only when it serves their personal interest. Commitment, sacrifice and partnerships of a whole life are far from their understanding of what marriage truly represent. The fact remains that Marriage is the basis of every human family and indeed the basic cell of every community.

Little wonder in our first reading today, we heard Lord God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone. I will make him a helpmate and in our Gospel passage today we heard how the Pharisees engaged Jesus on the notion of divorce in marriage and it’s controversy. Jesus refer them to the fundamental principle of marriage when he said, ‘It was because you were so unteachable that Moses wrote this commandment for you. But from the beginning of creation God made them male and female. This is why a man must leave father and mother, and the two become one body. They are no longer two, therefore, but one body. So then, what God has united, man must not divide. And he said to them, ‘The man who divorces his wife and marries another is guilty of adultery against her. And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another she is guilty of adultery too.

Here, Jesus emphasized on the real intention of God about marriage. Though, there are two forms of life that help us to value human sexuality as a gift from God that is marriage and Celibate life. So, Jesus ruled out divorce by placing men and women on the same level; no longer could a man opt to divorce his wife. But today there are lots of problems in family due to lack of understanding of what marriage truly means. 

It is quite interesting to realize that social, economic and political factors were major determinants that shapes the youths present understand of marriage, as we see the youths giving importance to changing trends in marriage such as: single parent, inter-caste marriage, living in relationship or cohabitation, lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender marriages, etc. Hence, marriage for them is more of a social phenomenon than spiritual union and physical companionship.

This must be corrected because marriage is much more than a social phenomenon. To understand what marriage truly means, we need to look how the Church defined marriage in  Canon 1055 of code of Canon Law which states that: marriage is the matrimonial covenant, by which a man and a woman establish between themselves a partnership of the whole  life and which is ordered by its nature to the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring, has been raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity of a sacrament between the baptized. 

Here, marriage is defined as a covenant between a man an a woman, that means marriage is sacrificial love not a social events between people or things with a particular selfish interest or ambition. It also talks about the partnership of the whole life which is made for the good of the spouses not for one person, not just for contract that you can abandoned at anytime you feel like. It tells us that marriage must be opened for procreation and education of offspring because most people today are not interested in the procreation and those who are open to procreation are not ready to educate their offspring. And finally since marriage between the baptized is raised to the dignity of sacrament, it must be sacred, enduring for the whole life time and uncontaminated. 

Dear friends, we are having issues in marital life because we have chosen to abandoned God in our lives, we feel that God is so rigid, so we want to eliminate him from our activities. Thus, we have abandoned God and divorced him, by trusting on our own power and ability which he has given us. Yet God still remembers the covenant he made with us, he is not ashamed to identify with us. All he wants is for us to come back to him now that we are still alive for he is a merciful and faithful husband who loves us as his bride.  So, today we are called to embrace the will of God and his teaching concerning family life and the issue of divorce. We should not let the trending ideas of disordered personalities in our world mislead us. Rather, we should value and respect the sanctity marriage.

LET US PRAY: Lord God, we have always failed to listen and follow you teaching, as a result, there are lots of problems in  our families due to lack of understanding of what marriage truly means. As we listen to your teaching today, help us to value our vocation whether marriage or celibate life and to constantly struggle to fix the problems in our families, we ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen. Happy Sunday.